The importance of self-care in the chaos of separation & divorce!
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

The importance of self-care in the chaos of separation & divorce!

Anyone who has ever experienced a relationship ending, will appreciate just how much chaos and disruption this brings to your life. Your World is ripped apart, you suddenly don’t know what your future might look like.

You may feel grief, hopelessness, fear, shame, uncertainty and even rage! All of these feelings are completely human and very normal as studies show that humans are a pretty needy bunch who co-regulate with their romantic partner and when this connection is torn, our nervous system is activated. Suddenly we are triggered into flight, fight, fawn response and we are unable to access higher-order cognitive thinking in this state- despite desperately needing to be able to so in order to make the big life-changing decisions you may be confronting!

It is for this reason that calming your nervous system is incredibly important and here are 7 simple self-care practices to help you centre yourself amidst the chaos/

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5 mindful steps to take before separation to consciously uncouple
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

5 mindful steps to take before separation to consciously uncouple

In the journey of parting ways with a partner, preparing yourself emotionally, mentally, and practically can make all the difference in achieving a mindful, conscious, and peaceful separation.

With these 5 mindful steps, you will be well on your way to embarking on the path of conscious uncoupling and navigating the separation process with grace and clarity.

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5 myths about conscious uncoupling
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

5 myths about conscious uncoupling

In the realm of relationship dynamics, the term "Conscious Uncoupling" has sparked curiosity and, at times, confusion. As misconceptions swirl around Conscious Uncoupling, it's crucial to shed light on its true essence of the formal certified process and dispel common myths. From misconceptions about participation to its applicability beyond romantic partnerships, understanding the nuances of the certified Conscious Uncoupling™ process is essential.

Read on to explore the intricacies of this transformative process and unravel the truths that lie beneath the surface of 5 common myths.

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The innocent victims of HIGH-CONFLICT separation & divorce
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

The innocent victims of HIGH-CONFLICT separation & divorce

The dissolution of a marriage is a challenging and often painful process for all parties involved. When it comes to high-conflict separations and divorces, children become innocent victims and collateral damage.

Given the incredible stakes of a high-conflict separation or divorce, the importance of embarking upon this process consciously cannot be understated. This blog explores the ways in which you can mitigate the risk of harm and trauma to yourself and your children including how Conscious Uncoupling is a priceless investment!

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7 ways to fill your own cup this valentine’s day
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

7 ways to fill your own cup this valentine’s day

Hand’s up if you have ever felt disappointed with the romance in your life? I know I have!

But ultimately, it is our own responsibility to show ourselves the love and romance we crave. So with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, why not take this as a golden opportunity to celebrate self-love and care by romancing yourself and filling your own cup. Here are 7 ways you might fill your own cup this Valentine’s Day!

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Top 5 benefits of conscious separation & divorce!
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

Top 5 benefits of conscious separation & divorce!

The devastating and traumatic impact of high-conflict separation and divorce upon not just the estranged partners, but their children and extended family, is well known. The impact can span generations and having spent 10 years practicing in family law, I can attest to the inadequacies and failings of the legal system which see these generational cycles continue.

This leaves us in a position where we need to find a new way beyond family law settlements achieved through resignation and forced co-parenting that leaves individuals feeling bitter and resentful and with no skills to avoid repeating the same fate.

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What on Earth is Conscious Uncoupling?
Kara Ockendon Kara Ockendon

What on Earth is Conscious Uncoupling?

Conscious uncoupling is a concept, coined by Katherine Woodward-Thomas (renowned psychotherapist and New Times Best Selling Author), that gained widespread attention when actress Gwyneth Paltrow used the term to describe her separation from her then-husband, Chris Martin, in 2014.

Katherine Woodward-Thomas’ ground-breaking work has transformed the way individuals approach the delicate process of separation and divorce. So, what exactly does it mean to engage in a conscious separation or divorce?

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